Any one of the signs below may have a number of underlying causes. But if you notice 2 or more of these symptoms, and if the onset is very sudden, we recommend that you seek professional guidance.


  • Aversion to or excessive interest in physical contact.
  • Rejection of a certain adults and the fear or refusal to be left alone with them.
  • Unexplained stomach aches.
  • Sleep disorders (night terrors, bed-wetting) or eating disorders (bulimia or anorexia).
  • Problems in school including poor results or indifference.
  • Loss of previous interest in extracurricular activities or hobbies.
  • Sexually explicit drawings.
  • Overly sexual behavior with playmates or toys.
  • Compulsive masturbation in very small children.
  • Sudden interest in adult genitalia.
  • Sudden fear of undressing in public.
  • Sudden fear of a specific place.

Not every girl and boy who experiences sexual abuse also shows behavioural problems. Physical signs that undoubtedly indicate sexual violence are rare. Nor are there any specific changes in behaviour indicating that a child is being sexually abused. However, abuse causes some or all of the emotions below in victims:  


  • Affected girls and boys are confused about how two-faced the perpetrator behaves.
  • They are scared and feel ashamed.
  • They feel guilty and responsible.
  • They feel lonely, powerless, and let down by the world around them.
  • They suffer a severe loss of confidence.


All these confusing and exhausting feelings make it hard for affected girls and boys to communicate.

If a child suddenly or gradually behaves differently than usual for inexplicable reasons – for example, withdraws, acts aggressively, no longer enjoys his or her hobbies – then that is a sign that the child is in distress, feels depressed and weighed down by something. A number of reasons could cause this change in behaviour. Such as the developmental phase of defiance, puberty, separation, or suffering violence and abuse. To find out what’s going on, adults need to take the time to get a conversation started with the child or teenager.

Affected children often drop subtle hints. They suddenly don’t feel like exercising, don’t want to play on the smartphone or visit the neighbours anymore.

If these needs are ignored, girls and boys often lose the courage to confide in others. But if they are asked more detailed questions, they might be able to open up.

Subtle hints and changes in behaviour are something like a symbolic language children and teenagers use with adults. These signs need to be noticed and correctly interpreted if we are to act to protect our children.